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யாரைக் குறை சொல்வது..

Posted by kalyanakamala மேல் செப்ரெம்பர் 22, 2007


ஆன்கள்தான் தவறுகளுக்கு மூலகாரணம் என்று முடிவுகட்டிவிட்ட இன்னாட்களில் பெண்களின் விபரீதமான போக்கு பயமுறுத்துவதாக இருக்கிறது.சமீபத்தில் நடந்த ஒரு நிகழ்ச்சி மனதைத்திகில் படுத்துகிது.என் நன்பர் ஒருவருக்குத்தெரிந்த ஒரு மனிதர் மன வெருபாடுகாரனமக மணமுறிவு ஆனவர்.வெலினாட்டில் வேலை பார்ப்பவர். இணையதலதில் மருமணத்துக்காக விளம்பரம் செய்திருந்தார். விருப்பம் தெரிவித்து பலபெண்கள் மெயில் அனுப்பி இருந்தார்கள்.இந்தியா வரும்போது எல்லொரையும் சந்தித்து ஒரு பெண்ணை முடிவு செய்யலாம் என தீர்மானித்து இருந்தர்.
ஒரு நாள் இந்தியவிற்கு வரவும் செய்தார்.ஒரு குரிப்பிட்ட பெண் மட்டும் ஏர் போர்டிலேயெ சந்திப்பதகக்கூறி ஒரு செல்பொனும் வெளி நாட்டிலிருந்தே வாங்கிவரச்சொல்லி இருக்கிறார். நண்பரும் பெண் பார்க்க நன்றாக இருந்ததால் செல்போனுடன் வந்து இறங்கினார்.ஏர்போர்டில் சந்தித்த பெண் நண்பரை தன் வேட்டுக்கு அழைதுச்சென்று செல்போனை எடுதுக்கொன்டதுடன் நில்லாமல் பியூட்டி பார்லருக்குப்போக 2000 ரூபாய் பணம் கெட்டிருக்கிறார். நண்பர் இல்லாத கொடுமை என்று நினைத்தும் தன் மீது அளவற்ற காதலால் நம்பிக்கை என்று நினைது கொடுத்திருக்கிறார்.
னண்பரின் இரக்க மனப்பான்மையையெ துருப்பாக எடுத்துக்கொன்டு அந்தப்பெண் ஒரு வாரத்துக்கும் மேல்   நண்பரின் பெற்றோரையும் சந்தித்து நயமாக குடும்பப்பெண் போல நாடகமாடி நண்
பரின் பணத்தை தண்ணீர் போல செலவழித்துவிட்டு ,கடைசியில் தனக்கு மூன்று லஷம் ரூபாய் கடன் இருப்பதாகத் தெரிவித்திருக்கிறாள் அந்தபu3021?பெண். நண்பர் விழித்துக்கொன்டார்.மூன்று லஷம் கொடுத்தவர் யார் எனக்கெட்டு அந்தப்பெண் காட்டிய நபரை ஒரு வழியக்கிவிட்டு அதுவும் செட் அப் என்று தெரிந்து கொன்டு விட்டால் போதும் என்றுதலை தப்பித்தது தம்பிரான் புண்ணியம் என்று நினைத்து பெற்றோர்களை எச்சரித்து விட்டு ஓர் திரும்பினார்.கல்யாண இணயதளங்களைக்குட நம்பி இறங்கமுடியாத நிலை.இப்படியும் பெண்களா?யாரைக்குற்றம் சொல்வது?

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7 பதில்கள் to “யாரைக் குறை சொல்வது..”

  1. Sridhar said

    தமிழ் எங்கள் உயிருக்கு நேர் – என்று சொல்லிவிட்டு இந்த பதிவில் எத்தனை எழுத்து பிழைகள். இதற்க்கு யாரைக்குற்றம் சொல்வது?

  2. மன்னித்துக் கொள்ளுங்கள்.தவறு என்னுடையதுதான்.யூனிகோடு இன்னு பழக வில்லை.

  3. soundr said

    i guess, my reply would suit the theme of this article.(though it shouldnt be considered as an reply)

    i would like to share the real life incidents of my friends friend and my 2 other friends, which happened in the earlier part of this decade.

    first the story of my friends friend:
    he was working in gulf as an auditor with hefty package (his company didn’t provide him an apartment, but an individual house with a swimming pool); and he looked smart.
    he was about to be fixed for a girl and came to india to get fixed in 2 months leave. he had already seen the girls picture and had chatted with her thru net (webcam and isd cell were not that popular then). when the boys family took him to meet the girl he also took with him a small gift for her. but the boy and girl didnt get a chance to speak in private and this guy didnt speak anything more than formal enquries to the girl. he also missed to gift her. everyone from both sides seemed to be impressed.
    but the enitire episode changed when the boy received a call from the girl.
    the girl asked the boy, “how did i look like?”
    he said “fine.”
    but the girl was not convinced. she expected for more appreciation and started pestering him. the boy got irritaed and asked “why are you pestering like this, you are fine and i like you is it not ok?”
    the girl went hot, she said “i’m a very beautiful person and you donot know to appreciate my beauty. what is the use of marrying a person who doesn’t know my beauty? ” and the telephone line was cut. well, the wedding, too.
    quite upset with this, but still the boys family managed to match another suitable girl within a month. the girl was beautiful well educated and mannered. this time the boy made a point that it was very important for him to speak with the girl in private. as they stepped into a room, and started to speak the girl rolled a bomb very politely.
    she said, “well, i’m already in an affair, so you better tell to everyone that you do not like me and get lost.”
    the boy got irritated, “if you are already in an affair, why did you accept for this proposal and why dont you tell about your affair to your parents?”
    “you dont teach me what to do. you do what i say. go out and say, you dont like me, but not a word about my affair”- the girl
    “i dont have any valid reason other than your affair to stop the progress. why dont you say to your parents, that you donot like me”- the boy
    “i will not say no to my parents. but if you dont stop this proposal, i will not stop my affair even after the marriage”
    quite disturbed by these events, still the boy’s family found a suitable girl who was doing her last semester B.E. they had an opinion, if things went positive with this girl, then the wedding could be fixed after 6 months in line with the next vacation of the boy.
    as usual everyone went to meet the girl. everyone was pleased and as usual the boy made it a point to speak with the girl in private.
    now this girl questioned, “why dont you work in US, why are you in gulf?”
    the boy replied, “i’m fine and happy both personally and professionaly. infact going to US is not a wise option for me” and explained the reasons.
    the girl now made her point, “well, not going to US would be better for you. but i have planned to get settled only in US. however, i dont say i donot like you. i shall marry you, but i will make to US and whenever you could visit me over there then we can have a good time as husband and wife”

    if this is what one would say about the mentality of city or town girls, you better listen to the following stories too.

    one of my friend is from a town and is doing own business. he is a PG in science and makes pretty good money and looks good too. his wedding was fixed mutually by family elders and the things went pretty good. he was always hanging to his fiance over mobile even during business hours. the wedding cards were on circulation and the family was in a hurry to print cards once more, due to need, with the wedding in a week. then came a phone from the girls family.
    the family elders said “you better stop the wedding. we are not interested with your guy.”
    the guys family was shocked and the guy too.
    when questioned, the girl said “i dont like this guy. he had smoken, drunk and had gone to movies with girls during his college days”.
    the boy didnt refuse and explained to everyone that “yes, as a aprt of ragging and during farewell parties, i had smoked and had a shot of alcohol. i was the one who told this in detail to her during our chatting, as i didnt want to hide anything from my fiance. i had also gone to movies with our classmates and it is not of poor taste. even the girl said she had gone to movies with her classmate boys. i dont think this wrong.”
    the girl snapped “naan poattu vaanginanae”
    just with these words from the girls mouth, the boys family cancelled the wedding. but to everyones surprise the girl got married to an US guy within a fortnight. and that explained why the wedding was cancelled by the girl and her family. however the guy and his family were in one way happy that they didnt have to mingle with such an opportunistic cheap minded family. but my other friends story is still worse, cant be any more worse.

    one of my friend is from a very tiny village and he is the first professional in his family. for a few years then his marriage was on talks and his sister was now and then stressing to get him married only to her daughter.
    though nobody objected her, still nobody appreciated the proposal to the family elders. but the boys sister in law was verbally expressing her disinterest but refused to state reasons. but the boy’s sister managed everyone with her big mouth.
    the marriage was fixed and works started to move, but the wealthy family friends who had been supporting the boys education from schooling and the family now and then by lending interest free money, quitely washed their hands to finacially support for the wedding. the family started to belive that the weathy guys were now jealous of their family as their boy was earning fine and their standard of living was getting better – a thought provoked by the boys sister.
    the wedding went fine and in the first night the girl refused for a physical relationship and asked not to make any advances atleast for some period.
    this guy gently agreed and kept himself away from her. and hardly ten days, the family received a message that the girl had eloped with her lover. it was then the family realised that it was becoz of the girls affair her mother was insisting to get the girl married to this guy, the reason why the sister in law was expressing her disinterest, the reason why the wealthy guys washed their hands.
    when the boy managed to reach the girl throu phone the girl replied,”i always wanted to live with him. my parents wanted me to get married to you. they threatened me that they would commit suicide. so i married you for their sake. now it is not their problem and with you i shall be always as a friend just like from our childhood days. what say?”
    icing in the cake – the girls parents (the boys sister and his brother in law) said to the boy “she is your wife and it is upto you to find her and get her back” and to the family elders “if the guy is not going to live with our girl back again then we would self immolate with A NOTE OF DEATH”.

    it was one of my most hard situations in my life when the boys parenst wept to me telling the story. in one side its their son, in the other its their grand daughter and in the other its their daughter.

    Now what could one say – city girls or village girls

  4. திருமணங்களின் நோக்கம் மாறியதே இந்த நிகழ்வுகளுக்குக்காரணம். மற்றும் ஆணாதிக்கம் எதிர்க்கப்படும்போது ஏற்படும் தவறுகளாகவும் இருக்கலாம்.
    நன்றி
    கமலா

  5. tamizh saravanan said

    சில கெடுமதிபெண்கள் படுத்தும் பாட்டால் இன்னும் சில ஆண்டுகளில் திருமணம் என்ற அமைப்பே மறந்தாலும் அச்சரிப்படுவதற்கில்லை

    திருமணத்திற்கு முன்பு 498ஏ என்னும் வரதட்சணை கொடுமை சட்டம், குடும்ப வண்முறை சட்டம் (D V case)போன்றவற்றை தெரிந்து வைத்துக்கொள்ள சொல்லுங்கள்… மற்றும் அரசியல் வாதி மகளாக இருந்தால் முன் ஜாமின் (AB) எடுத்து வைத்துக்கொள்ளுங்கள்… இது எல்லாம் நகைச்சுவைக்கக எழுதுவது அல்ல…

    தற்பொழுது சிறுசிறு குடும்பத்தில் ஏற்படும் சலசலப்புக்கெல்லம் இதபோல் சட்டங்கள் மணமகன் வீட்டாரின் மீதுப்போடப்படுகின்றன… இதுவரைக்கும் சுமார் 1,50,000 ஆயிரம் பெண்கள் (எனது தாயர் மற்றும் எனது தம்பி நண்பருடைய தாயர் உட்பட) விசாரணைக்கைதிகளாக்கி சிறையில் அடைக்கப்பட்டுள்ளனர்… மற்றும் சுமார் வருடத்திற்கு 20,000 குழந்தைகள் தந்தையில்லாமல் வளர்கின்றது (எனது குழந்தை உட்பட)

    வருமுன் காப்போம்…

    அன்புடன்,

    தமிழ். சரவணன்

  6. tamizh saravanan said

    அன்புத் தாயே!

    தங்கள் மின்அஞ்சலை விருப்பமிருந்தால் தெருவிக்கவும்,

    Mine is tamizhsaran@gmail.com

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